"Love suffers long and is kind; love does not envy..." I Corinthians 13:4a
"Cole, do you
want to help me write something about God today," I asked.
"I'm
not a Priest, but sure," He replied.
“What do
you think are some of the important things people should know about God?”
Cole
said, "Well, first I think people should know why the bad things
started here - things got bad because of Jealousy. Satan Got Jealous of Adam and Eve. He got jealous that
we were made heads over this planet and jealous of how God loved the humans.
He thought that earth should have been give to the angels. So, He forced
the serpent to lie to the humans."
"Cole
what do you know about Jealousy?"
Cole
said, "OK, so let's say you have a friend who gets a really big expensive
toy. And then you want that toy because you didn't have a toy that was so big
and shiny. And maybe even your
little toy is broken. So, let's say that the jealous person gets so upset
that he actually swipes it from you. Remember that's what happened to me
at that party. That big kid got jealous of the light saber I had and he
swiped it from me. Mom, that’s jealousy and it hurt me.
"Cole,
can you think of a time that you've been jealous?"
"Hmm.,
(he paused for a while) and then said, ‘I’m trying but I can't think of
something right now. Can you?"
(I
honestly couldn’t think of anything but I didn’t want to tell him that because
I am acutely aware that all sins of the heart are common to all, some more than
others, but not a single example of jealousy on his part came to mind. Fortunately, he continued talking
before I had a chance to answer.)
“Actually,
Mom, I like when other people have nice things and I'm not jealous because I
have nice things too. But if I lived in a drafty cabin and wore drabby clothes
and had to clean the house all the time and if you were a mean mom, then I
would be a little jealous of my friends who didn’t have those problems and I’d
be kind of sad. I would wonder why I had to end up like this. But
mostly I would just be a sad. But if all those things happened I would
pray to God and I would ask Him to give me a better house and make my mom
kinder and to have clothes that aren't so drabby. But if God didn't fix these
things, then I would be really, really disappointed, especially if it went on
for many years. Then, I guess I would be so sad that I would almost be
jealous.”
“But still I don't think jealousy is my big bad thing ...Do you want me to tell you what
my big bad thing is?"
“Yes,
son, you can tell me what your big bad thing is” I said.
"When
Maya takes me toys or says that I am cheating when I’m not, I have a hard time
being patient with her.”
"Yep, that's my big bad thing”
I then asked Cole, “what do you think we
need to do with the big bad things in our hearts, whether its jealousy or struggles
of not having patience and grace for those who hurt you or wrongly accuse you?
“I think we need to go to God for help, because if
we don’t then all the bad will just grow and take over our whole body and we’ll
become like a bandit or a bully or something bad like that.”
“Cole, do you think bullies are happy?”
“No, they are not happy, but sometimes I
think they don’t know that what they are doing is so bad”
“Yes, I think you are right Cole. If we knew how much our sin hurt other
people we probably wouldn’t continue to sin so much.”
“Cole, I want you to know why it is so important
that we go to God to get help to love and forgive those who are not loving us
well. The answer is found in John
13:35. It says, “Your strong love
for each other will prove to the world that you are my disciple.”
So basically, if God is our teacher and
the thing that God is teaching is love then the only way that people will know
that we are his students is if we love as he has taught us to love. To love through patience and
forgiveness towards others even when they are sinning against us. To love even those who are jealous of us and try
to swipe the things that matter to us, and even when they accuse us of bad
things that we haven’t done. You
see, even then we need to choose love for the Lord’s sake – so that people will
believe in the power of God’s love to change hearts. Loving the unlovable are our great opportunities for showing
the power of the love of God to a lost world! And if we do choose love then the big bad things
inside of us won’t take over our hearts and make us into something unhappy that
we don’t want to be. Not bandits or bullies (or depressed, self-pitying, controlling,
hard hearted, suspicious adults) but God’s loving and joyful representatives in
a sometimes jealous and hurtful world.